The difference between Shyness and Introversion.


When I first heard about introversion from Susan Cain, I finally felt understood. I was wondering why I felt drained from going to social events. I thought, maybe I was basically just an anti-social girl and being anti-social is basically a behavior that is undesirable. 

At a very young age, I already knew that my personality and WHO I AM was unloveable

Which of course became a problem for me as I become a young adult.  

Let’s get technical:

So, an introvert is an “energy thing” - introverts enjoys time alone and gets emotionally drained after spending a lot of time with other people. 

Where else shyness is a fear-based energy. Meaning, a shy person doesn't necessarily want to be alone but is afraid to interact with others or essentially being judged by others.

The thing is, I am both shy and introverted. Oh dear! 

When I started this post, my intention wasn't for a psychological argument but as a reminder that we are humans and therefore we are multi-layered. Someone could be shy but vivacious and extremely sensitive or an introvert but not shy and extremely self-centered. (I mean, I’m just guessing and mixing my thoughts here.)

One thing straight as I move through my own personal growth journey, I am not JUST shy and introverted, I have many freakin' character traits that make my own human ‘blueprint’.

I’m now a mother in my mid-30s and have overcome my shyness, but not entirely … I’m brave with some stuff but with some situation, I struggled. 

If you’re a type of person that wants to be a better person despite if you are shy, introverted or an extroverted, you have the ability to love yourself unconditionally.

You are but of course only human AF.