When I first heard about introversion from Susan Cain, I finally felt understood. I was wondering why I felt drained from going to social events. I thought, maybe I was basically just an anti-social girl and being anti-social is basically a behavior that is undesirable.
At a very young age, I already knew that my personality and WHO I AM was unloveable.
Which of course became a problem for me as I become a young adult.
Let’s get technical:
So, an introvert is an “energy thing” - introverts enjoys time alone and gets emotionally drained after spending a lot of time with other people.
Where else shyness is a fear-based energy. Meaning, a shy person doesn't necessarily want to be alone but is afraid to interact with others or essentially being judged by others.
The thing is, I am both shy and introverted. Oh dear!
When I started this post, my intention wasn't for a psychological argument but as a reminder that we are humans and therefore we are multi-layered. Someone could be shy but vivacious and extremely sensitive or an introvert but not shy and extremely self-centered. (I mean, I’m just guessing and mixing my thoughts here.)
One thing straight as I move through my own personal growth journey, I am not JUST shy and introverted, I have many freakin' character traits that make my own human ‘blueprint’.
I’m now a mother in my mid-30s and have overcome my shyness, but not entirely … I’m brave with some stuff but with some situation, I struggled.
If you’re a type of person that wants to be a better person despite if you are shy, introverted or an extroverted, you have the ability to love yourself unconditionally.
You are but of course only human AF.